This late am, I drove our newly graduated daughter, Kenzi, to a friends that she will be traveling with for 10 days. It isn't as independently adventurous as it sounds. She is traveling with her friend's parents and siblings. But it will be a lot of fun for her and it is the longest we have been apart since she was conceived.
I had a chance to talk to Kenzi yesterday, before graduation. I told her, "Our goal as parents was to raise a daughter who was not entitled, who worked hard, knew the value of money and how to spend it carefully and save it." I told her that we had more than accomplished that. I also mentioned that she probably won't realize that we had anything to do with it until she is a parent of her own children.
The spirit testified to me this earlier in the day as I was pondering that Kenzi thinks we have done nothing for her. She doesn't realize all that we have done because her expectations that we should be doing more have everything to do with her friends having so much handed to them without having to work for it. She brought up the same friend she is traveling with, has a free trip, a free new car her parents gave her, clothes and hair color and lashes, etc.
We gave her $1200 cash for graduation that she could spend on what she wanted... but she paid $1200 earlier in the year for a lap top because she did not want to wait. And she paid $600 to go on this trip. We bought a new car for Trent so Kenzi could have a car to drive, but Trent did not want to give it to her - and when I brought it up, Kenzi said she didn't want it either, because it isn't what she wants.
Regardless, Kenzi is amazing and will succeed in what she decides. It was nice to have a moment yesterday to share my thoughts with her. And to put it on the blog today before I forget.
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